"In vacant or in pensive mood..." I am: Bekah; 24; Law Student / Favorite Things: Carbs (so there!), Johnny Damon, Smiling at babies, Grilled cheese, Comfortable silence / Favorite Supreme Court Justice: Brennan / Favorite Wilson: Owen by an inch / Today's Special: Song: Elliott Smith, "Bled White"; Quote: "You know, there's like a butt-load of gangs at this school. This one gang kept wanting me to join because I'm pretty good with a bowstaff." Please love me: mmbekah@yahoo.com


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I hate it when people say that the first thing they look for in people they date is a sense of humor. And I don't only hate it because you and I both know that's not the first thing anyone looks for. I hate it because the phrase "sense of humor" is meaningless on its own. It's like saying your number one priority for prospective mates is that they have a nose. Or that they like to eat sometimes. It is so nonspecific that it's ludicrous: everyone finds at least something in life amusing. Even expanding the phrase to the all-encompassing "good sense of humor" doesn't really get you anywhere. Some people might think a good sense of humor involves appreciating the lighter side of entemology, or drawing lewd pictures in subway stations, or even killing someone in an outlandish or silly way. Those things are not very funny to me! And yet, there are people out there who are referring to such practices when they describe a good sense of humor. Now, I realize that when people say that they look for a sense of humor in a mate, they mean a sense of humor compatible with their own. I just think there should be some sort of bottom line test to set out so people can get a basic idea of where other people are coming from. Like, "If you don't think Fletch is funny, let's not waste each other's time." Or, "If you don't know what it's like to laugh at Ralph Wiggam until you pee, we're not right for each other." Or, "If you're not comfortable enough with your masculinity to read Oscar Wilde and love every wonderfully hilarious word the man wrote, it wasn't meant to be." The sad thing is, the only person I've ever met who has a sense of humor virtually identical to my own is my sister. Maybe I should start making a concerted effort to find humor in King of the Hill and Mr.Bean. That would have to open a few doors, right?
posted by Bekah at 10:15 PM :: |